What They Don’t Tell You About Soliloquy

“Soliloquy is the act of talking to oneself.”

Growing up, many of us were taught that "talking to yourself" was strange, even dangerous. If you were caught doing it, people either assumed you had a mental problem or needed a spiritual intervention. Try soliloquizing in public; people might literally part ways as if you were contagious.

But what if we've been wrong about soliloquy all along?

The Beauty Behind the Stereotype

I’ve discovered that soliloquy is not what we need to be ashamed of, but a powerful mental tool.

When I’m frustrated, confused, or overwhelmed, I talk to myself out loud. I pace the floor, ask myself questions, challenge my thoughts, and correct myself. Most times, I emerge from that moment with clarity or at least a sense of direction.

Soliloquy, for me, is like having a personal brainstorming session with my mind.

Soliloquy as a Writing Tool

As a writer, soliloquy has become an essential part of my creative process.

Whenever I want to develop ideas, sharpen concepts, or give depth to a thought, I talk it out. I pick a topic I’ve been thinking about, maybe one I’ve read something on, and I begin to “lecture” myself. It helps me unlock fresh expressions and discover new angles.

Some of my best lines or insights come from these private, spoken thoughts.

What Soliloquy Can Do for You

Let’s set the record straight: talking to yourself is not madness. Done with intention, soliloquizing can help you:

• Clear your mind

• Understand your thoughts better

• Organize ideas

• Develop confidence in your message

• Gain emotional release

• Create new content or make better decisions

It’s like journaling with your voice.

Use It Wisely

Of course, wisdom still applies.

• Don’t be loud about it in public.

• Don’t talk to yourself in a way that creates fear or confusion for others.

• Use it in private spaces, during walks, or while working alone.

• Let it be intentional, not compulsive.

Soliloquy isn’t the problem. The lack of understanding about it is.

Final Thoughts

Talking to yourself may never look “normal” to everyone. That’s okay. What matters is what it does for you, especially when you use it to grow, create, and lead.

So the next time you feel stuck, don’t be afraid to start a conversation with yourself.

I’m Ojo Adewale Iyanda, and I love to see us grow.

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